First of all, excuse the recent absence. Since the big move into our new house, I have been focussing on many things except blogging. Such as our interior which is really coming together although we are still on the hunt for a new couch that will go well with our mid-century interior. We are leaning towards this one (which looks a lot nicer in real life). Other than that I started my new job with a much longer commute than before, picked up reading again and kept myself busy with a home garden with all kinds of vegetables. So that left little time for the internet.

Which is fine because the internet, or to be more specific Instagram, Tumblr and Pinterest were putting me down the past couple of weeks. I’m actually a pretty confident person 99,9% of the time but for some reason the never ending stream of imagery of beautiful tall and thin women started to get to me. I wasn’t in a good place at the time due to our move and my new job which was very stressful so that may have been the reason. But I knew I needed a time-out when suddenly terms as ‘elegant’ and ‘effortless’ became equivalents to ‘tall’ and ‘thin’ and I reasoned that certain outfits (like the ones above) would have looked amazing on me if only I had that body.

When I went shopping, my expectations didn’t live up to reality. No matter how many different pairs of vintage Levi’s 501 jeans I tried on, they never made me magically look like the next Jeanne Damas or Adenorah. And that’s okay. But it did leave me a bit disappointed. Because I love searching the internet for style inspiration but I do feel that there is a lack of images on platforms such as Instagram or Pinterest that reflect diversity and reality. Although that might depend on your personal style of course. Maybe I’m just not looking in the right direction and that whole French je-ne-sais-quoi aesthetic just isn’t meant for me (more specifically: my body type). But still, it would be nice to find images that cater to your personal style that you can relate to.

Nevertheless, looking back, I’m quite surprised that I, as an adult woman, can be influenced in such a negative way by something as Instagram which I rarely use myself nowadays because I grew tired of trying to maintain my followers after a while (I work in an office four days a week and don’t get home until 7pm. Not a very exciting lifestyle, haha). But I’m not an exception. According to recent British research, Instagram is the most harmful social media network for the mental health of people between 14 and 24 years old. Our feeds filled with photo perfect moments and uber stylish individuals often don’t match with our daily lives and can contribute to social health problems such as depression and a negative body image.

What worked for me was to stay away from social media for a while and focus on other things that bring me joy and put everything back into perspective. It was such a relief to get rid of that constant stream of information and to live in the here and now and focus on yourself and the people around you (or your garden hehe) instead of comparing yourself to others and focus on what it is that you don’t have. I’m sure this is all old news to you guys but I just felt the need to share my thoughts, or rather my insecurities, on this subject and tell you that sometimes it’s not so bad to take a step back. Oh and in case you’re wondering, I’m not going anywhere and I will still be blogging.

Does social media ever influence the way you feel about / or look at yourself?

 

Ah yes, if you have been reading this blog for a while you must know that spring and summer are my most dreaded seasons when it comes to wardrobe planning. However, last year I think I did a good job in regards to planning and purchasing new clothes. My list consisted of three potential purchases but I only ended up with two; a black camisole and a pair of high-waisted white trousers. The latter made me realise that I don’t have to wear jeans all summer, solely out of habit, and that they’re a great alternative for skirts and dresses which I rarely wear.

I did succumb to fast fashion once again (will I ever learn?). I’ve come to realise that I very much prefer to invest in clothes and accessories that I can wear all year round instead of just one season. So summery trousers are not something I’m willing to spend a lot of money on. But, as always, they do need to meet all of my requirements; natural fabrics, machine washable, high-waisted for the illusion of longer legs and preferable wide-legged. We all have our problem areas (even if they’re only visible to ourselves) and mine are my thighs or better said, those darn saddlebags. So I try not to emphasise them when I wear something tucked into my trousers. Straight or wide trousers are my best option.

I tried several options such as these and these but I finally fell for the green trousers below. I have to admit though, I left the tags on because they’re a bit trendy and out there for me personally (you can see me wearing them here) and we have only been blessed with two warm days so far. But if I do keep them, I have my summer wardrobe sorted. I have compiled a few collages of how I would wear them with garments and accessories that I already own. What do you think? Yay or nay?


From left to right, top to bottom: Byredo Black Saffron perfume (€110) , H&M trousers (€50), Straw hat (similar here), black loafers (similar here), Samsoe & Samsoe camisole (old)

From left to right, top to bottom: Yoisho straw bag (€30), H&M trousers (€50), Escentric Molecules, Molecule 01 perfume (€90), &Other Stories sandals (sold out), Adam Lippes t-shirt (€100)

Just a quick note to let you know that I’m still alive and well and didn’t abandon this blog. It’s just that life is currently extremely hectic. We’re in the process of moving and I can’t believe how much stuff we own. And also how tired I am of owning so many things. So I’m going through a decluttering fase at the moment and won’t stop until I’m done. I refuse to move things to our new house that we don’t want and/or need like we did last time because we were in such a rush. We still have one week ahead of us until our actual moving date. So far so good.

Another big change in my life is that from April 1st I will be working at another museum. To be more specific, at the Stedelijk Museum in Amsterdam, the biggest museum for modern and contemporary art in the Netherlands. I didn’t plan on leaving my current job until a former colleague pointed out a job opening to me in december and I realised that it was time for a change. To be honest, it was a very difficult decision as I absolutely love the museum that I work at right now but I didn’t see any opportunities for me to grow in the near future. So I took a chance and I’m excited to see where this job will take me.

So that’s where my life is at right now. I feel a bit (understatement of the year) stressed out with all of these upcoming changes but I’m sure that feeling will pass once we move into our new house. Well, enough about me for now. I hope you are all doing well. And for my fellow bloggers, I can’t seem to find the time to leave a comment at the moment but I’m still enjoying all of your posts!

PS. I can’t wait to get my hands on the latest edition of The Gentlewoman. Sofia Coppola looks absolutely stunning on the cover and the images that I’ve seen so far.

review comme des garcons wallet

A few years ago I got tired of carrying around a large bulky wallet with receipts from purchases I made months before. So I decided the splurge on the iconic Comme Des Garçons pouch to do some serious downsizing. Nothing too fancy, just one compartment for everything. It worked wonderful for a while but I ended up missing a few sloths for my cards. So I upgraded to the zip around wallet with room for change and a few cards. I’ll keep it short and simple; if you are looking a classic and durable wallet for your basic nessesities, make sure to check these out.

There’s a CDG wallet for everyone. They come in many shapes and sizes and not to mention numerous colours. Obviously my favourites are the pouch and zip around wallet. I adore the sleek look of both designs. Mind you, I also like their embossed and glossy designs but you can never beat the classics. So simple black leather it was. Do you remember that small magic bag Hermione carried with her that held like a million things? Story of my life up until a few years ago. You can imagine that scratches were hard to avoid. I was a little disheartened upon the first scuffs and marks but let’s face it: it’s just a wallet. And it turns out all those scratches blend beautifully together and really soften the leather over time.

The stitching is amazing and very durable, as are the zippers. I bought the pouch in 2011 and the zip around wallet in 2013 and both still look like new apart from the scratches I mentioned above. The pouch doesn’t look as grey and washed out as it seems in the picture by the way. It’s just bad lighting and I didn’t want to photoshop it #keepingitreal. I have to admit though, I’ve been reaching for the pouch more than the wallet at the moment as I hardly use cash anymore. Just my bankcard, public transportation card, drivers licence and Museumcard and I’m good to go. But the zip around wallet is great for travelling so no money wasted there.

Both wallets fit easily into my Céline trio bag and A.P.C. half moon bag although obviously the pouch takes less space and is therefore my preferred option when I’m carrying these bags. The pricing is a bit steep. They’re not the cheapest wallets out there but the quality is outstanding. The pouch is €70 and the zip around wallet €150. If you don’t want to spend that amount on a simple wallet, I suggest looking into Everlane. They sell similar wallets such as the square zip wallet, for a more affordable price. Unfortunately I can’t comment on the quality but I’m sure there are some reviews floating around on the internet.

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Features of the pouch:
– All leather
– Zip fastening along the top
– Gold toned hardware
– Gold stamped logo on the outside
– Made in Spain
– 10 (h) x 14 (w) x 1 (d) cm

Features of the wallet:
– Alle leather
– Zip closure all around
– Four card sloths
– One bill compartment
– Separate coin pouch
– Gold toned hardware
– Gold stamped logo on the inside
– Made in Spain
– 10 (h) x 12 (w) x 2,5 (d) cm

Tell me, what kind of wallet do you own? And do you have any other recommendations for wallets?